Hi there everyone!
I'm new to this place and the reason I have come here is because my mum has this week received a diagnosis of stomach cancer which unfortunately has already spread to her liver and lungs, and so the cancer is terminal. At the moment my whole family is in a state of shock at this diagnosis. My mum is 86 and at this moment in time there have been no discussions of treatment (if any) or any timescales given. I am feeling numb, but also quite frustrated that there appears to be no rush to get information to her about her options. Is this a normal feeling to have? I would be grateful for any suggestions. Thank you!
Hi and welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis. A cancer journey like this in the family can be so stressful and challenging in many ways but I do hope you find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The New to Community is like our reception desk where you can be signpost to our various cancer support groups and other services and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone on their cancer journey you may benefit from joining our supportive Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others supporting family and friends as this is safe place to talk to others, ask questions and get support.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green link I have created above. Then once the page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go.
You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post and as always you can reply to existing ‘Discussions’ by click [reply].
The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
You may also find our Cancer Nurse Team in our Ask an Expert section helpful but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face when on a cancer journey (patient or family) can be very helpful but during these strange times it’s not that available but do check to see if any Local Macmillan Support in your area has opened up. Do also check out for a local Maggie's Centre in your area as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.
All the very best.
