Hey! Just a little rant or emotional message
My mum was in bed for 12 whole weeks no doctor would come out and see her they would just say its scatica pain! Gave her a load of meds ...
I put her in the bath and I could see something wasn't right took her straight to a&e to find she had broken her back ... it was bone cancer
My mum got told she had it in the bones and lungs & we got told she had got 9 months to live... I had been trying for a baby for 3 yrs! A week later I found out I was pregnant brilliant I thought it gives my mum something to fight for something to hang on for my mum was literally my soul mate I told her everything!!
I brought a house & moved my mum in where she would be more suitable for her with a downstairs toilet and shower we got the help from most people with me being heavy pregnant now and my mum going down hill so quick!
I gave birth on the 24th of October to a little girl
My mum sadly passed away on 11th Nov
It's coming up to my mums birthday this month and we are burying her ashes the day after it's all really starting to hit me now ... now my body/brain is telling me she's not in hospital and she will never come home again I can never ring her again never see her beautiful face again
I truly believe someone gave me my daughter because they know I wouldn't have lived with out my mum
Sorry for long post needed to get it out
Hi and welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your mum. It’s been a hard time for you all but your little one will bring light into this journey.
I lost my mum a year past November (not to cancer) so the past year has been full of memory jerking dates but the important thing we have done is see these as reasons to celebrate her life.
We spent last summer working through her boxes of photos and made up albums for her 5 grandchildren and her 6 great grandchildren….. so her memo will live on through the generations.
The New to Community is like our reception desk where you can be signpost to our various support groups and other services so can I recommend that you consider joining our supportive Bereaved family and friends group. This will be a safe place to talk to others who are dealing with a similar experience, to ask questions and get support.
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Talking to people face to face when on a cancer journey (patient or family) can be very helpful but during these strange times it’s not that available but do check to see if any Local Macmillan Support in your area has opened up. Do also check out for a local Maggie's Centre in your area as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
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Hi Enliven and a welcome to you. Sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis, this is a hard time for all the family.
Can I recommend that you consider joining our supportive Bone cancer and Lung, secondary cancer groups as these will be safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and talk with others who are supporting family and friends on their journey.
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone on their cancer journey you may benefit from joining our supportive Carers only group where you will connect with others supporting family and friends.
Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.
All the very best ((hugs))
