Hello. My darling husband has colon and liver cancer and we was told on Monday to get his affairs in order and bake videos for the children now! We gave been told he had 6-9 months left! How do we tell our children that are 12 and?
I’ve got so much going around in my head? How much to tell them, are we going to have to move, we will be financially ok! My head is spinning!
please help. I feel lost and broken!
Hi and welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to see you joining us and even more sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis, this must have come as such a shock.
A journey like this is very stressful and challenging time for all the family but I do hope you find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The New to Community is like our reception desk where you can be signpost to our various cancer support groups and other services so when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone on a cancer journey like this you may benefit from joining our supportive Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others supporting family and friends.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green link I have created above. Then once the page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go.
You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post and as always you can reply to existing ‘Discussions’ by click [reply].
You may also want to have look at our supportive Bowel (colon and rectum) cancer and Liver cancer groups. These are safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and talk with others who are supporting family and friends on their journey.
You may find some of these Macmillan resources helpful on understanding childrens' reactions and also talking to children when an adult has cancer. You can also download, or order a paper copy, of this booklet.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful but during these strange times it’s not that available but do check to see if any Local Macmillan Support in your area has opened up. Do also check out for a local Maggie's Centre in your area as these folks are amazing and do some great work supporting children through their families cancer journey.
The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. You may also find our Ask an Expert section helpful but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.
Sending you supportive ((hugs))
