Hi. I am new to this group so a little bit nervous. A few months ago after no symptoms we found out my husband has kidney cancer and has had his kidney removed but when we saw surgeon a few weeks later he said the cancer was a grade 4 and there were early signs of renal envasion so my husband is now under Christies and doing a trial. All of this had come as such a shock to us as a family and mentally it has really affected my husband as he feels he is letting everyone down and just cant see any positive thoughts going forward. We have a wonderful relationship and i keep telling him how proud of him i am and how brave he has been through all this and been staying positive and so strong for him but inside i am broken as 24/7 all we talk about is the cancer and thats all everyone we see talks to us about. I feel mentally drained and so tired as not sleeping but then i cant tell him how much this really hurts me or my feelings on it as i dont want him to feel bad or put any pressure on him so i just keep been strong and there for him all the time and keep reassuring him as best i can. He has 6 months on this trial now and there is a 50/50 chance it will come back because of the grade of cancer. How does everyone keep strong and positive day in day out. I do cry in front of him but try not to as it upsets him more to see me like that. To think overnight how our lives changed. X
Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
You are right that a cancer diagnosis turns our worlds upside down but hopefully you'll find lots of support here.
As the community is divided up into different support groups I'm going to recommend that you join the kidney cancer group, which is a great place to ask questions and share experiences with who have this type of cancer, and the carers only group which is a safe and supportive place to discuss your worries and emotions with others who have a loved one dealing with cancer.
To join just click on the links I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about your husband's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help
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