Hi, Im looking for some hope! Mum age 75 has been diagnosed with stomach cancer. She has lost over 4 stone (thankfully had this weight to loose) she is not able to eat due to feeling sick, loss of appetite and sever pains in tummy. She has also either been constipated or has the runs. We have been told it hasn't spread. She has had a feeding tube fitted to try and build up her strength in the hope to have chemo and surgery. Since the feeding tube has been fitted she has became very weak, is now on heart medication and hasn't really tolerated the feed. I feel she has given up. The consultant told her she had 9 months to 1 year without treatment and I feel she has given up the fight. I'm so upset that she isn't fighting this as treatment is an option but we need to build her strength. Any advise help or comfort would be appreciated. I don't want to lose her, Im so scared.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your mum's stomach cancwr diagnosis. This is such a stressful and challenging time for all involved but I do hope you find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The New to Community area is like our community reception desk where we then can signpost you to our various cancer specific support groups and other services so can I recommend that in the first instant you consider joining our supportive Stomach cancer group. This will be a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions, get support and talk with others who are supporting family and friends on their journey.
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When it comes to the practical challenges of supporting someone on their cancer journey you may benefit from joining our supportive Family and friends and Carers only groups where you will connect with others supporting family and friends
The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. You may also find our Ask an Expert section helpful but do allow a few working days for a reply.
To find information covering diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers check our Online Information and Support Section.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful but during these strange times it’s not that available but do check to see if any Local Macmillan Support in your area has opened up. Do also check out for a local Maggie's Centre in your area as these folks are amazing.
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All the very best ((hugs))
