Hi,
My Dad has stage 4 cancer. He was diagnosed in October 2020, with 2 surgeries and different chemos we thought the tumour had gone away. But in May it came back and we found out it was terminal. My Dad is my hero and I’ve spent lots of time with him over the past year and a half. I don’t know if its exhaustion or the fact I don’t know if I’ll be able to watch him die but I’m finding it very hard to be at home knowing that he’s starting to go down hill. I feel like I’m failing him and that is not what my Dad deserves, he deserves the world and certainly not this illness or this way to die. He is too good of a man for that. How to I cope with this guilt and how do I step up to be a better daughter to him? To be there for his last remaining months? How do I be the daughter he deserves?
Hi and a warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both informative and supportive.
I'm sorry to read that your dad has terminal cancer and I know what a difficult time this will be for the whole family.
As the community is divided up into different support groups I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group which will give you the chance to discuss your emotions as well as practical issues.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about your dad's diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help
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