Hi
I’m only 18 and my family has just found out grandma has cancer and has a few months left at best. I’m usually very laughy, jokey and very sarcastic especially with my two little brothers who are 11 and almost 9 and have mild autism and ADHD. I’m still having a laugh with them but inside I feel like curling myself into a ball under my duvet and hibernating does anyone know how to look after younger siblings while someone you love is dying and also how do I keep going after grandma passes away??
Hi and welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your grandma's diagnosis. This is such a challenging and stressful time for all the family but I do hope you find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The New to Community is like our reception desk where we can signpost you to our various cancer specific support groups and other services. When it comes to the practical challenges of supporting someone on a cancer journey like this you may benefit from joining our supportive Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others supporting family and friends
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green link I have created above. Then once the page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join]button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using). You will then see a dropdown menu so hit ‘Chat’ or ‘New here, say hello’ and you are ready to go.
You could copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also search through existing ‘Discussions’ and click [reply] if you want to put up a comment.
You may find some of these Macmillan resources helpful on understanding childrens' reactions and also talking to children when an adult has cancer. You can also download, or order a paper copy, of this booklet.
The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. You may also find our Ask an Expert section helpful but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can help a lot but during these strange times it’s not that available but do check to see if any Local Macmillan Support in your area has opened up. Do also check out for a local Maggie's Centre in your area as these folks are amazing wit children.
Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.
All the very best ((hugs))
