Hi,
I'm, new to the group,
On 23 December 2021, my husband ( just 58 yrs old) was diagnosed with inoperable Pancreatic cancer. The cancer has already spread to the liver and local lymph nodes,
He has been given an average life expectancy of 12-14 months.
He started chemo last week, he is feeling awful and already is saying he doesn't want to carry on with chemo if this is what its going to be like.
I am devastated -in shock- petrified - and feeling totally useless.
Any advice to help me through this would be greatly appreciated.
Hi Tortoise Lady and a very warm welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis. This is such a challenging and stressful time for all the family but I do hope you find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The New to Community is like our reception desk where we can signpost you to our various cancer specific support groups and other services so can I recommend that in the first instant you consider joining our supportive Pancreatic cancer, Liver, secondary cancer and Lymph nodes, secondary cancer groups. These are safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions, get support and talk with others who are supporting family and friends on their journey.
If you'd like to connect in with a group, you do need to join the group. Click on the Green link I have created above. Then once the page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New (Computers) or + (Mobile Devices). You will then see a dropdown menu so hit ‘Chat’ or ‘Start a Discussion in New here, say hello’ and you are ready to go.
You could copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also search through existing ‘Discussions’ and click [reply] if you want to put up a comment.
When it comes to the practical challenges of supporting someone on their cancer journey you may benefit from joining our supportive Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others supporting family and friends
The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too. This service provides cancer information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. You may also find our Ask an Expert section helpful but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can help a lot but during these strange times it’s not that available but do check to see if any Local Macmillan Support in your area has opened up. Do also check out for a local Maggie's Centrein your area as these folks are amazing.
Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.
All the very best ((hugs))
