Was diagnosed with Breast cancer in June 21, followed by several scans where they found a cancerous lump on my kidney and also follicular lymphoma. A lot to take in as I didn’t feel Ill in anyway, but prognosis is good. This all started with a regular mammogram. After lots of biopsy’s it was decided the breast cancer took priority, as all 3 cancers are separate and not linked at all, I’ve now had 4 lots of chemotherapy and dealt really well with it. On 3rd of November my 90 yer old mother died, I had never told her about my diagnosis as she had slight dementia and I didn’t think she needed to worry. She lived a 4 hour drive away, and because of Covid most contact was over the phone so she never saw the changes of hair loss etc. 10 days before her funeral I ended up in hospital with an infection and sepsis. Because of the ward I was on no one was able to visit, which I found really hard. Had my 5th round of chemotherapy between Christmas and New Year, but my body rejected it and now waiting for oncology to get back to me about what happens next. The breast lump has shrunk and after 6 rounds is to be removed.
I just feel so down at the moment, so much has happened in the last 2 months and I’m finding it difficult to pick myself up again. I have a husband and grown up children that are very supportive but also finding it hard to see this once strong women who could face anything, now crumble.
Just wondering if anyone has experienced anything like this and have any tips to help pick myself up again.
Hi Gooner1 and welcome to the Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about you being diagnosed with 3 types of cancer and your ongoing treatment, this is such a hard time for you made worse with the passing of your mother, my sincere condolences. I do hope you will find lots of support and comfort here on the Online Community.
The New to Community is like our reception desk where we can signpost you to our various support groups and services so can I recommend you join our Breast cancer group. This will be a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis or treatment experience.
We also have our Kidney cancer and Follicular lymphoma groups as well.
If you'd like to connect in with a group, you need to join the group. First click on the Green link I have created above. Then once the page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join ]button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New (Computers) or + (Mobile Devices). You will then see a dropdown menu so hit ‘Start a Discussion in New here, say hello’ and you are ready to go.
You could copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also search through existing ‘Discussions’ and click [reply] if you want to put up a comment.
The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via web chat. This service provides cancer information, emotional support, benefits and financial guidance or just a listening ear.
To find information covering diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers check our Online Information and Support Section.
Talking to people face to face can indeed help a lot but during these strange times it’s not that available but do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area has opened up. Do also check out for a local Maggie's Centre in your area.
Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.
All the very best ((hugs))
