Getting Back to Normal Relationship

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I'm recovering from Bowel cancer. I am finding it frustrating  returning to a full marital relationship with little or no control and it finishing before really starting. Where do I go to get help?

  • Hi  and welcome to the Online Community although so sorry to hear about the journey you have been on but I do hope you will find lots of comfort and support here on the Online Community. 

    The New to Community area is like our reception where we can signpost our many dedicated support groups and services so can I recommend you start by joining our Bowel (colon and rectum) cancer group. This is a safe place to talk to other people who may have a similar diagnosis or treatment experiences.

    If you'd like to connect in with a group, you need to join the group. First click on the Green link I have created above. Then once the page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."

    You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New  (Computers) or + (Mobile Devices). You will then see a dropdown menu so hit ‘Start a Discussion in New here, say hello’ and you are ready to go.

    You could copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also search through existing ‘Discussions’ and click [reply] if you want to put up a comment.

    The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via web chat. This service provides cancer information, emotional support, benefits and financial guidance or just a listening ear.

    Talking to people face to face can indeed help a lot but during these strange times it’s not that available but do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area has opened up. Do also check out for a local Maggie's Centre in your area.

    Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.

    All the very best.

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

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  • Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community

    As the online community is divided up into different support groups I'm going to recommend a couple for you to join and post in. The first is the bowel cancer group which is a great place to ask questions, share experience and get support from others who have the same type of cancer as you.

    The second is the life after cancer group which is a group for cancer survivors and people who have finished treatment and is a space to discuss things like the physical and emotional after effects of cancer, returning to work, or trying to move on with your life.

    To join either or both of these groups just click on the links I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'. 

    It would be great if you could pop something about your diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

    If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help

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