Since being in hospital my mum has declined rapidly in the past week. She was admitted having had a fall and spent an awful night in A and E . By the time I got there she had been very distressed and crying out that she wanted to go home. I managed to settle her somewhat and now she is on a ward but keeps having episodes of paranoia and delusions. She has never been like this before. The staff asked me if she had a history of dementia but she never has. I think its lack of food but I don't know or if the cancer has spread to her brain. I don't know how to help her.
Hi and a warm welcome to the Online Community although so sorry to hear about mum, this is such a hard time for all the family but I do hope you will find lots of comfort and support from people who understand here on the Online Community.
The Online Community has many dedicated support groups so can I recommend you start by joining our Stomach cancer group. This is a safe place to talk to other people who might have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience or are supporting someone on their cancer journey.
If you'd like to connect in with this group, you need to join the group. First click on the Green link I have created above. Then once the page opens up click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a new post by clicking in the box near the top right with + New (Computers) or + (Mobile Devices). You will then see a dropdown menu so why not hit ‘Start a Discussion in New here, say hello’ You could copy and paste the text from this your first post.
When it comes to the practical challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from joining our supportive Family and friends and Carers only groups where you will connect with others supporting family and friends
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of cancer information, emotional support, benefit and financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Always around if you need further help in navigating the community.
All the very best ((hugs))
Hi again , I do hope you will find some support through using the various routes I have highlighted.
Talking to people face to face can help a lot but during these strange times it’s not that available but do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area has opened up. Do also check out for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing
I can in some way understand the challenges you are facing. My mum (91) died this time last year, not from cancer but her health had been failing over the year.
Totally independent, refusing any outside support, she lived alone in the house I was born into 66 years ago……. and we lived 5 hour round trip away. So last year was hard especially as I was classed as Clinically Extremely (Covid) Vulnerable. To the point that I was not advised to go into the hospital to be with her when she passed as the wards were not safe for someone who was CEV.
The winter months were spent dealing with all her estate but we remember her fondly 
Sending you supportive ((hugs))
