2020 was a very bad year for most. Hopes that 2021 would be better were short lived for me. The worst thing happened, we found out my mum had stage 3 cancer. I got the dreaded call to say mum had fell out of bed and looked to have had a stroke. This was in June and by September she had died. My head is finding this really hard to come to terms with. My heart is broken as I was there to watch my mum take her last breath. She had had mini strokes which were caused by the cancer in her belly. We never got to the point of trying to treat her as things just went down hill so quickly. She got to come home as there was no longer anything they could do for her. She was sent home and got there at 2pm and by 4pm she had died. We did not expect it to be that quick. We all thought we had more time than a few hours with her.
I feel let down by the NHS as the care my mum received towards the end was nil to none. I am starting to find my daily things hard. I find I no longer have the patience I once had and find I feel angry all the time. This is now affecting my family as they are walking on egg shells around me.
I don't know how to cope with the loss of my mum. Is there anyone that is feeling the same?
I find it hard to talk to family and friends so thought I would try it this way.
Any help, or stories will be much apricated to try and help me come to terms and start to deal with the loss I am feeling.
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that your mum has recently died and this must be a very hard time for you.
As the online community is divided up into different support groups I'm going to recommend that you join the bereaved family and friends group which is for anyone who has lost a family member or friend to cancer to share their feelings and support one another.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
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