Hi, I’m Angelgorg and my dad has just been diagnosed with advanced oesophageal cancer which has spread to his liver. It is inoperable. Myself and my Dad have a funny old relationship. We fell out last year and were estranged until he received this devastating news. Now I’m trying to support him as best as I possibly can.
My Dad’s diagnosed has hit me harder than I thought it would. I have feelings of guilt, anger and devastation. I am up and down most days and although I have a husband and his family who have been supportive, I feel as though I am burdening them all with my sadness. My husband asks me what’s wrong a lot and thinks it’s something he has done but i tell him im just sad. I’m not good at hiding my feelings at all or putting a brave face on for other people. I can for my Dad. I don’t want to bore my husband or his family but at the same time I need to talk through what i am feeling too. So I am hoping that writing on here will bring me that?
My Dad has an appointment with an oncologist tomorrow but we know that any treatment he will receive will most likely just be to alleviate his symptoms.
if anyone else is going through this or has been through this, please reach out to me here. I want to give support as well as receive it.
kindest regards.
Hi and a warm welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that your dad has recently been diagnosed with oesophageal cancer which has spread to his liver.
As the online community is divided up into different support groups I'm going to recommend that you join the oesophageal cancer and secondary liver cancer groups which are great place to ask questions about treatment and share experiences with others who have this type of cancer or are supporting someone who does.
I'm not sure from your post if you are your dad's carer so if you are then joining the carers only group will give you a place to discuss your general worries and emotions but if you're not then the family and friends group is also a good place to connect with others who have a family member with cancer.
To join these groups just click on the links I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about your dad's diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
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