Hi,
I'm new here and don't really know where to start.
My mum has secondary breast cancer, and is currently on treatment to manage the spread to her liver. She's currently in good health and is enjoying spending time with the family, but is tired easily, and has recently been getting more anxious at the risk of covid and living herself she's been getting some bother from kids hitting her door.
I'm the kind of person that likes to fix problems, but obviously my mums illness is very much out of my control.
I'm scared of what's to come, and being able to handle it.
I'm scared that I won't be able to help her.
I'm scared for my two girls (3 and 7) and how they will cope with what's to come.
I'm hoping that opening up on here will help me process what's happening, and might help me release with a lot of the emotion that I'm holding onto. I think not talking about it is making me short-tempered and irritable.
Apologies for the long intro.
Hi JL1984 and welcome to the Online Community but I am so sorry to read about your mum’s diagnosis and the challenges you are facing but I do hope you will find the support available in the community helpful.
You will find talking with others who are walking the exact same type of cancer treatment path (my one is completely different) will help you navigate this challenging time.
The New to Community is like the Community Reception area. As there are many cancer types and experiences, likewise the Community has many dedicated support groups to allow you to connect with others who understand so can I recommend you start by joining our Breast, secondary cancer group as this will be a good starting point.
Navigating the community will depend on the device you are using. To go to the group just click on the Green link I have created above.
When the group page opens choose [Join]……. A black box with text will also be visible so you can also join by clicking anywhere in the black box.
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a new post by clicking in the box near the top with + New (Computers) or + (mobile devices). You will then see a dropdown menu so why not hit ‘Start a Discussion in New here, say hello’
You could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can search through existing ‘Discussions’ and click 'reply' if you want to put up a comment.
When it comes to the practical challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from joining our supportive Family and friends (that I see you have joined) group where you will connect with others supporting family and friends
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of cancer information, emotional support, benefit and financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Alway around if you need further help in navigating the community.
All the very best.
