Hello everyone
My mum has lung cancer and COPD and my dad has vascular dementia. We lived abroad for the last 13 years but have came back to look after them
Nothing has prepared me for the emotions I am going through . Rollercoaster of feelings in one day . I feel love , sadness, anger and now very tired .
I am 57 and my husband is 62 .Feel like I have aged 10 years since I have been back.
I feel that I have a double whammy with my parents . I go from cleaning my mum to answering the same question to my dad 10 times a day
i don’t have any siblings and feel under a lot of pressure
Thanks for listening
Sandra
Hi Sandra and welcome to the Online Community.
I am so sorry to read about your mum and dad and the challenges you are having to deal with but I hope you will find the support available in the community helpful at this difficult and challenging time.
Talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer treatment path (my one is completely different) will help you navigate this unwanted journey.
The New to Community is like the Community Reception area and as there are many cancer types and experiences so likewise the Community has many support groups so can I recommend you start by joining our supportive Lung Cancer group as this will be a good place for you to connect with other folks who may be on the same cancer treatment pathway.
Navigating the community will depend on the device you are using. To join a group just click on the green link above then scroll down and choose 'click to join' or 'join' on the page that opens.
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a post by clicking on ‘New Thread’ or ‘New here, say hello’ then hit the box with the X on the top right (phones).
You could just copy and paste the text from this your first post and you can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
When it comes to the practical challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from talking with others caring for family and friends so can I recommend that you join our supportive Family and friends and Carers only groups where you will connect with others supporting family and friends
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of cancer information, emotional support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
To find information covering diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers check our Online Information and Support Section.
All the very best ((hugs))
