Hey I'm new to this in fact all of this! My Dad was diagnosed with Lung Cancer in January but I didn't find out until the March, as parents do they wanted to protect me from it, hoping it'd be cut out then into recovery bish bash bosh! BUT after Dad's Radiotherapy on the small 4cm tumour found on his brain then the chemo for his lung after the 3rd session Dad knew it hadn't worked and Dad was told there's nothing more they can do for him, Dad asked if he had at least 6 months but the consultant couldn't say anything. Now i feel he's been robbed of what life he has left, he was such an active chap and now it breaks me seeing the rock in my life break. Is it wrong to accept that yes he has cancer, yes he's dying but I can't accept the just existing part, it's like 've accepted he's gone but then hes just existing, looking so frail, I can't hug him for fear of hurting him, I don't want him to go but to see him like this is just cruel, so many feelings, waves of anger, numbness my life is just suspended - I want to be there all the time but I can't, I want to be there a the end but i'm frightened, I want to get away but everything will just follow - it's like i want out of my own head.
Hi
I'm very sorry to read that your dad has been told that there is no further treatment available to him and I can understand how devastated you must be.
As you know the online community is divided up into different support groups and I can see that you posted in the lung cancer group recently which is a great place to ask questions and share experiences with others who either have lung cancer or who know someone with this type of cancer.
I hope that you don't mind me suggesting that you also join and post in the supporting someone with incurable group which is a safe and supportive place to discuss your emotions about the prospect of losing your dad and to get support.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about your dad's diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
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"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
Hi and welcome to the online community
Discovering that your dad has lung cancer and not being able to visit him for a couple of years must be very hard for you.
As you know from my reply to Beamish0153 the online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join and post in the lung cancer group, where you can ask questions and share experiences with others who have this type of cancer or have someone close to them who does, and also the family and friends group which is a safe and supportive place to discuss your emotions.
To join these groups just click on the links I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about your dad's diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
x
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
