Hi, this is my 1st time posting. My dad has terminal bowel cancer that has spread to liver and lungs. He’s had various different chemos over the years but his treatment was stopped may time where consultant said they would keep a eye on him. He had another scan then another consultation in middle of aug where they discharged him and handed his care back to gp and district nurses who would give him palliative care. Since then he has became weaker and weaker. He is so yellow, getting weaker and weaker each day. He was still managing to get up but sleeping throughout the day in chair. He doesn’t have the strength to get to bathroom and using a bucket, his urine is black and has virtually no appetite. He ate some mash potatoe and a carrot last weekend since then he has maybe ate 1/2 yogurt on a daily basis or a few strawberry’s. This past week he has started to go to bed during day and then go to bed maybe at 5 or 6 for the night. If he’s up in chair he’s drifting in and out of sleep, he looks dreadful and just seems to be going downhill fast, he’s vomiting throughout the day, his urine has gone from black to a really dark brown past few days. The yellow skin colour is now looking more brown in colour although the whites of his eyes are like illumounis yellow. The district nurses came out on thurs for 1st time and are coming back Tuesday. He’s taking anti sickness tablets and morphine but he just seems to be going downhill. If this is the end how long does this last for?
Hi and welcome to the online community although I'm very sorry that you've had to find us.
As the online community is divided up into different support groups I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group where you can discuss with others, who have someone with a terminal diagnosis, your emotions about the prospect of losing your dad, as well as practical issues about palliative care and end of life.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
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