Hi, I was diagnosed with T4 bowel cancer back in April. I had 6 rounds of Chemotherapy and the plan was to scan to see if the tumour had shrunk enough for surgery to remove it. On the 20th Augist I was rushed into hospital for emergency surgery as the tumour had burst. After a few days in intensive care and 10 days on a ward I came home nearly a week ago. My wife jas been fantastic but is still working as well as caring for me. She isnt sleeping well and gets tearful thinking she is useless. She is far from it. I keep telling her that she isnt and try to help where I can but I am worried about her. Is there any support for her? She doesn't know I am posting this.
HI Relentless
so sorry to hear about all that you've been through and how thoughtful of you to be posting looking for support for your wife. That is such a caring thing to do. I am really genuinely touched.
I am in your wife's position. A year ago my husband was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumour and I've been caring for him and working and keeping things together as best I can. Trust me, I've never felt so useless in all my life so I get where your good lady wife is coming from.
Talk to her when you can find a good moment ( appreciate that can be tricky) and let her know she can call the MacMillan support line (the number is below) anytime . There's also a Carers only forum - Macmillan Online Community on here that I personally have found to be a great support.
Don't forget you might need to reach out too. There's a Bowel (colon and rectal) cancer forum - Macmillan Online Community that you might find helpful and you too can call the helpline anytime.
Sending both of you a huge virtual hug
Wee Me xx
Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm
thanks Relentless. Your kind words have made my day
love n hugs
Wee Me xx
Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm
