Hi
my dad was diagnosed with prostrate cancer back in 2009 he had at the time radiotherapy and from then on he’s been on hormone injections every 3 months.
Anyway last two years is PSA levels have been rising they wasn’t concerned just kept trying other hormone treatment anyway last September 20 he went for a scan and it had spread to his hip. Apparently they wasn’t concerned put him on some tablets and changed his hormone treatment, checked him every three months, anyway in March time he was told treatment was working scan showed no signs of moving anywhere else so everything was great is PSA level was at 0.5. Anyway in June he had an appointment and his levels had risen so they decided to send him for some scans check him over he had lost weight and wasn’t looking great.
anyway last week we was told the cancer had spread to his bones and he has to have chemo. He said he switched off at that point, he wouldn’t allow any of his children there are four of us to go with him so we don’t know much other than he will have another app to discuss is chemo plan . Said will
be every 3 weeks over a ten week period, don’t know what chemo etc. he did say which worried me was that if the chemo after two try’s didn’t work then ThTs would be it.I’m thinking surly not there must be more treatments out there. I’m gutted. And I don’t know what to do.
what makes it worse is he looks after my mum who had advanced dementia . Of course I help but I work I have two younger children I have three brothers but there not fab they try. But I’m the girl lays on my shoulders all the time as I live round the corner just want to know if there is support out there for my mum as well if my dad is unwell with treatment need help with mum. Just don’t know where to go where to start what to do.
If anyone as any advice at all good or bad I can take it I just want to know where I stand thanks sorry where he stands
Hi and welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis and the ongoing challenges.
A cancer diagnosis in the family can be very difficult but talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer treatment journey (my one is completely different) will help you navigate this difficult time.
The New to Community is like the Community Reception area and as there are many cancer types and experiences so likewise the Community has many support groups so can I recommend you start of by joining our supportive Prostate cancer and Bone, secondary cancer groups as this will be a good place to connect with folks who may be on the same cancer treatment pathway.
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You could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
When it comes to the practical challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from talking with others caring for family and friends so do check out our Carers only group where you will connect with others supporting family and friends
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of cancer information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
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All the very best ((hugs))
