My dad has been diagnosed with advanced Lung Cancer. He only found out less than 3 weeks ago and only yesterday was told he had perhaps a week or a month to live.
I have no experience of what to expect apart from some online reading etc.
I hoped Dad would accept going into hospital or a hospice but is adamant that he wants to be left to pass away at home and of course I respect this however, his long time partner is unable to cope both mentally and physically and I think she is looking to me to take over. I live a couple of hours away from my Dad so it is really difficult to be there at the moment, although I am visiting him in the next couple of days, but the intention of my partner and I is to attend to him 24/7 as soon as things take a downturn.
At the moment he is now having a Community Nurse/Carers attend him daily thank goodness but am wondering what is in store for him, his partner and us. Of course, I am really struggling to concentrate fully on everyday life although sometime it can act as a distraction until random sad dear thoughts enter my head.
Apologies if this is disjointed or rambling but thought this may be a forum where I could just share similar experiences.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about your dad and challenges you and the family are all having to deal with. It is such an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be very challenging but talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer support journey will help you navigate this difficult time.
The New to Community is like the Community Reception area and as there are many cancer types and experiences so likewise the Community has many support groups so can I recommend you start of by joining our supportive Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others supporting family and friends
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of cancer information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have Cancer Nurse Team in ourAsk an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
All the very best ((hugs))
