My 57 year old ex-husband (we're still close friends) was taken to hospital on Monday because he'd collapsed and was paralysed. An emergency MRI found tumours on his upper spine. He's still in hospital for the foreseeable future and needs a neck brace to support his spine. He's on continuous morphine and steroids, as well as Oramorph. His right arm is not working and he's struggling with pain levels.
COVID rules say only his girlfriend is allowed to see him and that's only an hour a day. This means his son and I can't be with him, so we're face timing and texting every day. The doctors diagnosed cancer, but he needs a biopsy and hasn't started radiotherapy yet, as they don't have a bed. I'm scared that the doctors will tell him it's a secondary cancer as he had two skin cancer lesions removed five years ago.
I'm trying to be positive but I'm struggling right now and want him to be well again. Does he have a chance of a good outcome or are we facing a short future with him?
HI ScoobyOoby and welcome to the Online Community. I'm so sorry to read about your ex-husband's collapse and the fact that subsequent MRI has found spinal tumours. The fact you and your son can't visit due to Covid rules must make it even harder for you to process this situation despite face timing and texting.
I have a different type of cancer but I do know any possibility of a cancer diagnosis brings anxiety, stress and fears so I'm going to suggest that you join our Spinal Cord cancer group where you'll be able to connect with others supporting loved ones on the same journey. Just click on the link I've created to join, then introduce yourself and re-post this thread. Read some of the posts and just click on reply to answer that take your interest.
Sending you welcoming hugs, B xx
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