This is really happening to me

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Hello everyone. I’m 54 years old and had part of my breast removed and a sentinel node biopsy 4 days ago. For some reason everything seems more real now than it ever did after diagnosis. 

I saw this community pop up on Facebook and whilst there are numerous local support groups and I have my MacMillan nurse to contact, this sounds more casual where I can dip in and out and see others experiences and ask questions without commitment or consequence. 

I guess we all thought it’d never happen to us. It has.

I have some amazing supportive friends but I find I need more of people who have cancer or recovered from it around me, after all, they KNOW how it all feels.

The past 24 hours I can’t stop crying. I don’t know why. There’s no specific thoughts. I need someone to tell me they know it’ll all be alright. 

  •  Hi I’d like to offer you a warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community. I’m sorry to read about your diagnosis but you’ve come to the right place to talk to other people who are in the same situation and help you get through this.

    I Know exactly what you mean when you write we all thought it wouldn't happen to us. This time last year I was having tests, didn't have a clue I had a hitch-hiker inside me. My cancer is different, but a cancer diagnosis of any kind makes us ask lots of questions, causes confusion, stress and probably emotions we’ve never experienced before.  I would recommend you join our supportive Breast cancer group, this will be a good place to connect with others making the same type of cancer journey.

    Take deep breath, dry your eyes, read some of the posts on the forum and you'll realise life might be different, but it'll be alright. The main thing you are not alone

    It’s always helpful to others if you write a little something (or a lot) about yourself and your journey to date. You can enter it into your profile (click on your username and select “Profile”) It’s helpful to other members with a similar diagnosis who can then hopefully answer your questions. It also means that you don't have to keep writing the same thing over and over. You can amend or update it at any time. 

    To find more information covering diagnosis and treatments there are pages covering most types of cancers which can be found on our Online Information and Support Section

    The Macmillan Support Services also offer lots of information, support, financial guidance or just someone to listen. It’s free to call 0808 808 0000. Most services are available 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week. Have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two to three working days for replies from our expert team.

    Sending you welcoming hugs B xx


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    FormerMember in reply to MrsBJH

    Hi super63 Heart eyes I totally understand where you are coming from. I feel exactly the same , scared , confused , even angry at times that it should happen to me , but from what I have seen ( I am new to this community too ) I think we have both come to the right place ! No matter how supportive our dear friends and family are no one understands how you feel ! I think a good cry does you good sometimes too ! Take care x

  • Hi Sewit, you’re right.. it does feel the right place. I can only do short stints at reading as sometimes I don’t know if it helps or upsets me. It’s helps to hear how other things in peoples lives change. It’s not just cancer we’re dealing with it’s a change of life.
    Thank you x