Hi,
After a couple of weeks of being bedridden, losing her appetite and feeling breathless, we called an ambulance for my Mum. She was taken to hospital and diagnosed the same day with advanced bowel cancer. The prognosis was months, maybe a year with chemo. She refused to contempate chemo. Within 2 days, the prognosis was 3 months and 3 days later it was 24-48 hours. She passed away 8 days after being admitted.
Not sure when the reality of this will hit....
Hi and welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about the lose of your mum, do accept my deepest condolences.
I lost my mum very suddenly back in November (not cancer) and at the time it made no sense as she was well and doing great. It was a challenging time especially as we had to do a long 3hr drive to get to the hospital.
The staff came down to meet us at the hospital front door and once they found out I was in the Clinical Extremely Vulnerable Covid Group I as strongly advised not to go into the hospital as the hospital was in code black and it was not safe for me, as it was my mum lasted only a few minuets once the staff went back to see if they could make it possible.
On reflection it was the best thing for my wider family, yes it’s taken time to get used to her not now being around but we have spent time looking through all the old photos and made up albums for all her grandchildren to keep.
You may find it helpful talking with others who are walking the same journey as this may help you navigate this difficult time.
The Community has many cancer specific support groups so can I recommend you join our supportive Bereaved family and friends group as this will be a good place to connect with folks on the same pathway.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of support or just a listening ear.
All the very best ((hugs))
