Hello,
Posting here seems very surreal, it’s never something I’ve considered doing but I’m not sure where else to turn.
a few years ago, my Dad was diagnosed with lung cancer, I’m not sure of the specific name. He had surgery and radiotherapy and was given the all clear. The cancer returned and he was given a 2 year prognosis.
my dad has outlived this by another 2 years. He was always fit and healthy and he spends winters in Canada which I really believe has contributed. Up until recently, he had been doing quite well, just occasionally breathless.
Dad is now declining, and quite quickly.. He is breathless all of the time and is struggling with daily tasks such as cooking.
Dad is still in Canada (long story) and this makes him happy.
I just don’t know how to feel or what to do..I am so thankful that he has outlived the prognosis, but I am exhausted with the constant not knowing of how long it could be.. I miss him so much but I am almost thankful I’m not seeing him decline, this makes me feel so guilty
Just wondering if anyone is in a similar position?
Hi and a warm welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that your dad has incurable lung cancer but that's great that he's outlived his prognosis. Many people do live well past the original time they were given as treatments improve all the time.
As the online community is divided up into different support groups I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group where you can discuss your emotions as well as practical issues about palliative care and end of life.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you have a minute it would be great if you could pop something about your dad's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
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