Reality of it all is kicking in

My husband has been diagnosed with liver cancer it is hard to take it in and I am worried about my children x

Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community

I'm very sorry to read that you've recently been diagnosed with breast cancer and although I had a different type of cancer to you I completely understand how worrying this can be.

I can see that you've already joined and posted in the breast cancer group and I'm sure you'll get benefit from the shared experiences of others with breast cancer along with their support.

When you have a minute, it would be really useful if you could pop something about your journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

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I feel for you cos even though my children are adults but still living home you want to protect them as much as you can. I think with children of any age be honest so they know its nothing they have done to make you sad. Also give any information in age relevant bit size pieces. X

Hi and welcome to the online community

I'm very sorry to read that your husband has been diagnosed with liver cancer and I know what a difficult time this will be for the whole family.

As the community is divided up into different support groups I'm going to recommend a couple for you to think about joining. The first is the liver cancer group, which is a great place to ask questions of others who have the same cancer as your husband, and the second is the carers only group, which is a safe and supportive place to share your worries and emotions.

To join either or both of these groups just click on the links I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting '+New' or '+' (again depending on the device you're using) and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'. 

I'm not sure from your post if you've talked to your children about your husband's cancer. If not, and you're not sure how to approach the conversation, then Macmillan have some great resources to help you. If you click here it will take you to their information on talking to children and teenagers about cancer. It is also available as a booklet to either download or have sent out in the post if you wanted to use the booklet when telling your children.

When you have a minute, it would be great if you could pop something about your husband's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.

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I too found out today that l need chemo .l was fine having the lumpectomy but the chemo thing has knocked me for six . We need to take this one step at a time and if we feel sad then that’s ok . I will send good thoughts your way x

Hi  I have just put up a reply to your post in the New to Community.

Klick on the link below and it will take you straight there.

community.macmillan.org.uk/.../hair-loss

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You can only take this day by day we should never deny ourselves a good cry and give in to our emotions Im starting my chemo journey soon. Thank you and im sending you good thoughts and possitive thoughts x

Thank you for you kind thoughts . My daughter told me that “ it is sad news and if you feel sad then that’s ok “ some have said the cancer journey is a rollercoaster but l think it’s more like the ghost train when there is something scary round every corner. I do feel better and more positive today  . I hope you do too x

Its perfectly ok to have sad days i find putting on a sad old movie helps when i need a good cry. Ive started having anxiety attacks about it all cos it is scary. I also make sure i find time to laugh and smile to me thats important to help stay possitive. Im so glad you had a possitive day and hope you get a lot more x

I have just received my date for the first chemo treatment so that sent me into another tail spin and l don’t know why cos l was expecting it . I went straight on line and ordered a couple of wigs and a turban but in my heart of hearts hoping l don’t need them . I have never thought of myself as vain cos l don’t wear make up but l so am .

l hope ever goes well with your treatments xxx