Well, this wasn't where I expected to find myself in 2021. My beloved husband of 30 years has just been diagnosed with an incurable cancer, pretty much out of the blue, with a prognosis of 12 months ish. He's 65, I'm 50. Just paid off the mortgage, he semi retired last year, I'm managing well following a bout of depression a couple of years ago. Everything to live for, snatched away from us. I know we still have much to be grateful for, but right now it feels really really unfair, and overwhelming, & I can't seem to stop crying.
Hi Jazzcatlady
I'm so sorry to hear about what you are both going through. I feel your pain. Late last August my fitness freak husband of 25 years sat me down and said he needed to talk to me. He'd been to the dr behind my back and was being referred for urgent ct and mri scans. Within 10 days we were sitting with a neurosurgeon being told he had 16-24 months. Two weeks after that following surgery the same neurosurgeon said 12-15 months. He's 51. Your world just implodes. All the tears and emotions are apparently normal...or so I keep being told. I've cried more tears than I thought was humanly possible over the past few months. There's a carers only forum on here that's been a great support to me over the past couple of months. Sadly there are a few of us travelling this path with our partners. Now that you've reached though you're not on your own.
love n hugs
Wee me xx
Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm
Hi Jazzcatlady and a warm welcome to the Online Community, a Community that no one really looks to see themselves joining, and so sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this brings confusion, stress and many questions but you will benefit from talking with other people who are on the same type of journey.
The Online Community is organised into dedicated support groups so you may want to look at joining our supportive Carers only, Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer Groups as you will connect with others walking the same journey supporting family and friends through their cancer journey
Follow the above links then choose ‘click to join' or ‘join’ when the page opens. You can then introduce yourself, post questions or just join in with existing discussions by clicking on 'reply'.
It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listing ear.
Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
All the very best.
