Hi
Am new to the group. Really struggling to cope after mum diagnosed with cancer. Found out on Thursday that she has CUP which can't be cured. Hoping to manage it with chemo but prognosis not promising.
I can't think of anything else. My anxiety is through the roof. Am on meds but not coping. Hardly eating etc. I'm lucky I have my husband who is doing his best to look after me.
I'm an only child so feel so alone, very close to mum and I'm terrified of ringing her. Don't know what to say or do.
Is this normal? Any advice would be much appreciated x
Hi and a warm welcome to the Online Community, a Community that no one really looks to see themselves joining, and so sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
Believe me there is no clear handbook for living this journey as a cancer diagnosis in the family brings confusion, stress and many questions but I found talking with other people who are on the same type of journey helped a lot.
The Online Community is organised into dedicated support groups so you may want to look at joining our supportive Unknown primary cancer group as this is a good place where you will connect with others walking the same journey both as patient or family.
Follow the above link then choose ‘click to join' or ‘join’ when the page opens. You can then introduce yourself, post questions or just join in with existing discussions by clicking on 'reply'.
Talking with others caring for family and friends and I see you have joined our very supportive Family and friends group, this is the place to connect with others walking the same journey supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.
It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listing ear.
Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
Our Online Information and Support Section is a good place to find information covering diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers.
All the very best.
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that your mum has recently been diagnosed with cancer and I know what a difficult time this will be for the whole family.
I can see that you've already found and joined our very supportive family and friends group and I'm sure if you start a new post there and introduce yourself you'll connect with others who will understand what you're going through. Clicking on the link I've created will take you straight there when you're ready to post. You can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
I'm sorry that your anxiety "is through the roof" but you've done the right thing ingoing to see your GP. You might also find this from Macmillan about managing anxiety helpful to have a look through.
As for not knowing what to say, she's still your mum so just talk to her about the same things you would have done before she became ill. However, I can understand that you might be worried that you'll say the wrong thing. Macmillan have produced this on what to say to someone who has cancer which you might want to read and they also have a booklet you can download.
Sending a ((hug))
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