Hi everyone, I'm new here. I'm 41, single mother of two children. In May 2020, diagnosed with melanoma, buy July after surgery it was all gone thankfully. The three months was filled with terror, sheer terror of thinking my kids would be motherless, then be split up to live with their dad's. I had no family support during any of this, plus covid meant I couldn't even get comfort from friends. I was living in hell. I decided during this time that moving 350miles to be closer to the children's family would be best for them (which it has). Life should be so much brighter for me now, but I feel like I have a brick in my stomach, I'm irritable, have very little patience, lost interest in doing anything really. Lockdown has been very welcomed as I cannot be bothered pretending to people I'm buzzing from being cancer free. I still believe I have cancer somewhere and every day I'm feeling for lumps everywhere, and headache I think it's a tumor, and mark I think it's another melanoma, if I'm tired I think it's blood cancer, these fears just won't leave me. Does anyone else relate to this and how do I give myself a serious shake?
Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community
I'm sorry to read that your were diagnosed with melanoma last year but it's great news that after surgery there is no more evidence of disease.
I was diagnosed with melanoma 4 years ago and, like you, it was removed with surgery and I've since had 3 monthly check-ups with my consultant dermatologist.
It's totally natural to be worried that the cancer might have spread or might come back. We all do it and it's still very early days for you. Hopefully you were given the contact details of a SCNS (skin cancer nurse specialist) who you can phone and discuss any lumps or marks that you've found in between check-ups. If you are worried about something they will get you in to see your consultant very quickly, usually within a week, so don't wait until your next check-up before mentioning something.
Can I suggest that you come and join us in the melanoma group as this will give you the opportunity to chat to others who will understand what you're going through. If you'd like to do that just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post questions in the same way as you posted here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you have a minute, it would be great if you could pop something about your journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
Hopefully I'll talk more to you over in the melanoma group.
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"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community
That's great news that you've been given the all-clear after treatment for cervical cancer but I'm sorry to read that you're struggling at the moment.
As the community is divided up into different support groups I'm going to recommend that you join the cervical cancer group where you can chat to other women who have had this diagnosis, share experiences and give and receive support.
To do this just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post questions in the same way as you posted here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you have a minute, it would be great if you could pop something about your journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
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"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
