Emotions

FormerMember
FormerMember
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Hi. I have had all my treatment for breast cancer last year and am on hormone tablets and injections at the moment. At the start of my treatment, my dad, who had come to live with me passed away as well.

Last year was taken up with the madness schedule of 2 operations, checkups, several lymph node drainage problems, dealing with dads estate, fighting nearly every side effect of chemo (apart from the 2 I was expecting, ie  sickness and weight loss), then radiotherapy which I thought would be a doddle after chemo, but it wasn't!!

My treatments finished at the end of November, in time to sort out Christmas with a family bubble, but when I started to relax, I seem to have become a bit undone emotionally... I can't even think about me  or dad without a crying fit. If someone asks how I'm doing I can reply/lie on text saying I'm fine, getting there etc, but face to face, I crumble.

I've always been what everyone refers to as a really strong and positive person... writing this, I'm in floods of tears that I just can't stop. The overly emotional response is completely alien to me and I hate it. 

My breast care nurse and the team at hospital are amazing and assure me its normal to have this response at the end of treatment. Has anyone else got this or had this? How long does it last? When will I start to feel like me again and return to work?

  • Hi  and a warm welcome to the Online Community, a Community that no one really looks to see themselves joining, and so sorry to hear about your diagnosis and especially about your dad, my mum passed back in November Smirk

    A cancer diagnosis brings confusion, stress and many questions but I found talking with other people who are on the same type of journey helped a lot.

    The Community is organised into support groups so you may want to start by joining our supportive Breast cancers and Life after cancer groups as this is the place where you will connect with others walking the treatment journey both as patient or family.

    Follow the above links then choose ‘click to join' or ‘join’ when the page opens. You can then introduce yourself, post questions or just  join in with existing discussions by clicking on 'reply'. 

    It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listing ear.

    Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.

    All the very best.

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Thehighlander

    Thank you Mike and my sincere condolences to you. I've joined the breast group now in my insomniac state.