We were told today that my husbands cancer in untreatable. He has months left to live. He was healthy until the end of November but has gone downhill very quickly. I am totally numb. I do t know what I am going to do without him. We have been married for 39 years and he is my life. I don't know how I am going to get through this. I dont want to spend the limited time he has left weeping and wailing but I just want to curl up into a little ball and stay there. Lockdown is making this even more difficult.
Hi and a warm welcome to the Online Community, a Community that no one really looks to see themselves joining, and so sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis. This is such a shock and in such a short time.
A terminal cancer diagnosis brings confusion, stress and many questions but you will find talking with other people who are on the same type of support journey would help help a lot.
The Community is organised into support groups and I see you have joined our very supportive Supporting someone with incurable cancer group, this is the place where you will connect with others walking this complicated and challenging journey.
Follow the above link then introduce yourself, post questions or just join in with existing discussions by clicking on 'reply'.
You may also find our Carers only group helpful as well as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey.
It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listing ear.
Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
All the very best.
Hi Liz21 I am so sorry to hear about your husband. We got the news that my husband's brain tumour was terminal two days after our silver wedding anniversary back in early September. We've been together for 32 years all in. I can empathise with your pain and heartache. Something I've learned over the past few months is that we are allowed to feel all our emotions too and its ok to be upset and scared. Over on the Carers Forum there are several folk in similar situations and personally I've drawn some solace and strength from there.
We're all on this scary journey together. We know where it's going. We don't know how we're going to get there but if we take it one step at a time we'll get through this.
Hang in there. Stay strong.
Big hugs
Wee Me xx
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You're welcome PineTree
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Carers only forum - Macmillan Online Community here's the link PineTree
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