Hello - new to this site and could do with some support please

Hello CD Girl

I am so very sorry that things have escalated for your partner, but I am pleased that you reached out for some support for yourself. 

My husband was diagnosed in May, a fast paced OC condition and given a poor prognosis, I joined Macmillan because I felt there was no better place to get to find people who understood and others who could advise if needed...I started by joining https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/gullet-oesophagus-cancer-forum 

I do not have experience with spine metastases and I am so very sad to read that a short time prognosis has been given to your partner, I have no words to fully support you, but I am here, I am in and out of the site often.   

My Husband is 52, it's no age at all... this is such a cruel disease 

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/supporting-someone-with-incurable-cancer-forum  this forum is another area of this site in which you will find other's who are going through similar experiences to you... you will I am sure receive support and understanding here.

Thinking of you both and sending strength at this time

Lowe'

Thanks Lowedal,

I couldn’t sleep last night as I felt totally overwhelmed by it all. Your reply made me feel that there are others going through this too and we can try to support each other. 

I got Gary home today from hospital and I feel happier knowing he’s back home where I can look after him properly. His parents have been round tonight and that was hard, his poor mum is in bits. He’s 51 - and like you say, no age. He was always so active and fit and involved in local football. Cancer is a

I’ll check out the forums you mentioned and I had a quick look at your blog too. That was really interesting, I have lots more of that to read when I get a wee bit of time.

Thanks again - we’re all in this together. 

Solidarity  

I am pleased that my response helped, even if it was in the smallest of ways. Having the courage to reach out when everything around you seems to be falling apart is a mark of your own strength and understanding that you have to take time for you, to deal with your emotions and Breathe....

Things will be tough, but we will be here...when you need as 

Sending Strength 

Lowe'

Hi CD Girl, you have received some great support from Lowedal.

I thought I would also highlight the Macmillan Support Services. This free services provides lots of information, support or just a listing ear as it’s always good to talk

Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available.

You can use other methods to contact our Support Services (LINK) and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.

Hello cd girl I have just joined this site today my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer two weeks ago and has been in hospital since, he has been offered chemotherapy but can’t get this because of a hole in the lung and fluid.  He has had a pump in the whole time.  What I am finding the hardest is not being able to see him and so afraid that something could happen without me there. I am older than you and think like me you should make the most of the support of your friends, having the support of good friends who are there for me gives me strength to face the day.  I know I have a very difficult journey ahead but having this site lets you know we are not alone.

Hi Miasmum...

Thank you for joining the site today, you are very welcome and I hope you find many different areas of support here...

I am truly sorry that you are unable to be with your Husband at this time, I know that I would personally struggle with that.  

If you need any help navigating the site, feel free to ask.

Lowe'

Thanks Mike, I’ll look into your suggestions.

Much appreciated  

Hi - your situation sounds dreadful. My partner was in hospital over the last weekend but I was able to visit and that was a lifeline for both of us. 

I agree that the journey ahead is a frightening and scary one but having this forum does help. 

Sending strength

Hi and a second welcome to the online community

I'm very sorry to read that your husband has been diagnosed with lung cancer and I can understand what a difficult time this must be for you both.

As Lowedal has said the community is divided up into areas of support both for specific cancer types and also for cancer experiences. I'm going to suggest a couple for you to think about joining. The first is the lung cancer group, where you can ask questions, share experiences and get support from others with this type of cancer and the second is the carers only group which is a safe and supportive place to share your worries with other carers.

To join these groups just click on the links I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting '+New' or '+' (again depending on the device you're using) and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'. 

When you have a minute, it would be really useful if you could pop something about your husband's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

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