I care for my boyfriend who has stage 4 lymphoma. We’re about half way through chemo so far and he’s suddenly very depressed and has out of no where decided he wants to break up so I’m not unhappy and he’s not ‘dragging me along’ with him through chemo. Our relationship is very different to that of what it was as a young couple before and some days he struggled to have energy to even talk. It’s impacted us a lot but I wouldn’t ever think to not be by his side. I’m absolutely heartbroken after today and we’ve both gone back to our mums houses for some space and to be honest I don’t know where we stand so far.
what can I do or say that will convince him it is his depression that is making him feel so hopeless? He seems to believe that he will never get better and he wants me to be happy without him. I don’t know what to do. Please help.
many thanks
Hi and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community, a Community that no one really plans to see themselves joining, and so sorry to hear about the challenges you are having with your boyfriend.
Having lived and been treated for Stage 4 Lymphoma I can truly say it is very hard work and does indeed effect all the family and friends.
You may find the Macmillan Support Services a good place to talk with our support workers. The services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00
