I had mastectomy in 2006 and have been blessed with 14 years healthy life since then. My daughter in law died from secondary breast cancer 3 years ago leaving my son and their 3 children. I was diagnosed yesterday with secondary breast cancer in the sternum. I am wondering how best to break the news to my family. Any advice please?
Hi and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community, a Community that no one really plans to see themselves joining, and so sorry to hear about your new diagnosis and understand the challenges you are facing although I have no firsthand experience to bring.
But talking with other people who are on the same type of journey can help and I see you have joined our Breast, secondary cancer group, this is the place where you will connect with others walking the treatment journey both as a patient or family.
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All the very best.
Hi PilgrimJ I too have just been diagnosed with secondary BC to the sternum and had a single mastectomy 1 month ago with a full anxillary clearance. Doctors are unsure how to treat me until the next MDT meeting. I am also sorry to read your news about your daughter in law and how aggressive this disease is and I hope you are receiving treatment to help you continue to live. I am having to talk to my 20 year old daughter who lives on campus at university and I will be talking to her about my plans to go back to Australia to live. It's bloody hard because I don't want to leave her but my family at home want to support me through treatment. I live alone and I would love to know how you are getting on? Did you speak with Macmillan about breaking the news to your family? All the very best x
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