Breast Cancer Diagnosis Today

Hi Bex

Everything you said I needed to hear as you are looking at all the positives which I need to start doing. I like hearing about yours and your mum's experiences (well I don't like it that you've had to go through them) but it's good for me to hear what you've both gone through and are doing well .

I have in my mind what you look like too but we're probably both wrong. 

Take care and talk soon. I will hold you to that glass if champagne.

Lolly x

Hi Lolly,

I wanted to come on early to see how you are.

I thought about you a lot yesterday, and told my Mark, he doesn't say much like your Ian, but he obviously knows what Ian is going through from that perspective, so it was really helpful.

He said he felt better once things fell into place, after each appointment when you were being told what was going to happen along the way. I think men are more methodical like that. He did say he felt useless when i was a blubbering mess, but knew that he had to let me go through the process naturally. (and i'm a really ugly crier) !

I was thinking about your appointment on Monday, and really, apart from knowing what type of chemo and if they are also doing Radiotherapy, there won't be any nasty surprises. You have done the worst bit as far as news goes.

Chemo is no way near as bad as you think it's going to be, and by the time you get to radio, you can do anything!

Is your hospital near you? 

Have you decided when to tell your Mum yet?

I hope you are ok, i'll keep checking in today.

In the meantime, huge hugs.

Bex xx

Hi Bex,

Thanks for thinking of me so early . You must know exactly how I'm feeling. I just can't stop crying. I really need to pull myself together. I think you are right about men. Ian says that now he knows they can do something as long as I'm alive that's the main thing. I wish I could think more like men!(in some ways).

Yes I thought that about Monday too. I'm just going to ask a few more questions. I've decided not to go for the reconstruction as I just want to get this out and done and not put anything else into the mix for now .

The hospital is only 5 minutes away so really handy. My mam gets results of her scan today so I need to get that over with first then tell her maybe after Monday. 

Do you work or are you at home during the day? If so what kind of things do you get up to? 

Have a good day and take care.

Lolly x

Hi Lolly,

So lovely to read your message. Don't worry about pulling yourself together, you are absolutely allowed to feel like this and crying is part of the process anyway.

Oh that is good that the hospital is only 5 mins away, ours is only 10 mins too, certainly made it easier for appointments and chemo etc. There were some poor sods that came from the Isle Of Wight for Radiotherapy, and it was a whole day each session with travelling.

I am back at work now, its been about 4 weeks i think. I work in an office and i am responsible for shipping microphones around the world (sounds so much more glamorous than it actually is) they have given me my own office, and i bring a flask of coffee and sandwiches everyday, so i don't have to mix with anyone. They really have been so caring and thoughtful during my journey.

How about you, do you work? What does Ian do?

Mark is a mechanic, he's got his own small garage, and so has been working throughout the pandemic bless him, his hands are so sore and cracked where he has been washing them so much!

Well done on making a decision about reconstruction, see, thats a huge step forward. my Mum didn't have it either, she wears 'falsies' and you would never know.

You probably can't see it, but you are already sounding more upbeat, you have mentioned 2 huge decisions with the reconstruction and telling your Mum, so be proud of yourself, you are doing so well.

When i was off, i found little things to do with my days, i play Tombola bingo online, read, do cross stitch, puzzle books and listen to music. I'm not a huge TV fan, but it is on most evenings, Mark likes to watch films so at the weekends we watch a lot of Netflix.

What about you? Do you have any hobbies or interests?

Ian sounds so sensible, thank goodness for our men, and he is right, you are alive and you are getting the treatment you need and thats awesome.

I'm happy I've heard from you, funny how we have both just clicked!

By the way, i am loving the way you say 'Mam', i have now added an accent to your image in my head hahah!

Look after yourself Lolly, you are doing amazingly.

Big hugs.

Bex xx

Hi Beckie,

This is just a quick cryptic message for now. Does Elford Drive mean anything to you? I'm just trying to find a way of getting in touch directly rather than through here

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Hi Lolly,

I love that cryptic thing, but alas i can't work it out. It doesn't mean anything to me.

Am i being really thick? haha

Bex x

mmmm i may have cracked that, if its a surname thing, but the first part is stumping me, :)

Hi,

No you're not being thick. It's obviously me barking up the wrong tree. It's an address if a company which I thought was yours. Back to the drawing board!!

X

HAHAHA, I had all sorts going on with alphabets written down and surnames.

I will have a think how we can do this.

Bex xx

Hi Lolly P and 

I have seen your messages wanting to contact each other privately. You can do this through Macmillan by sending a private message through the site. To do this you first need to be 'friends'. This link will take you to an information page which tells you how to do this and then how to send private messages.

Please remember that all the information that you post here is public – it can be read by people not logged in to the Community and potentially found through search engines, so please do not publish any private information such as email addresses.

If you need any further help just give me a shout

x