Hi there I am new to this and wondered if I could ask for some advice .
A lady that is like a mum to me has recently been diagnosed with throat cancer and I don’t know what to do
What do I say to her, how do I act round her
Daft things to ask I know but help please
Hi
The best advice I can give is to show how much you love and care for her. A text or phone call as visits may not be possible due to Covid and the lockdown. Just being there to listen to her worries or to talk about normal things. I remember so well how much friends helped me through the difficult days.
You will get a sense of what she needs and take your cue from that. Everyone reacts differently and there is no right or wrong way to deal with cancer with ups and downs through treatment and tests!
Take care x
Jac
Hi and welcome back to the Online Community as I see that you were posting a number of years back.
Its great that you want to support you good friend. You may also find our Carers only and Family and friends groups a great benefit as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey
And also our info pages about Talking to Family & Friends about Cancer
Its always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support or just a listing ear.
The service is open every day 8am to 8pm and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here for more information.
You can also email them, use the online chat and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
All the very best.
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