My mums lung cancer

Hiya hun,

My dad was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer back in October 2018 and lost his brave battle with terminal lung cancer last March aged just 63years. 

My youngest sister arranged our dad's service (I don't like the other word) with the help of me, our middle sister and our brother.

We all agreed on what songs were going to be played as everyone was walking into the crematorium and when everyone was leaving the crematorium.

We even made sure that everyone placed a fake red rose on his coffin.

The only thing that annoyed all four of us though was that one of our dad's brothers decided that it was going to be done by Catholic priest even though our dad wasn't religious, but we decided that he could do that just to keep the peace.

Hi JulesF and welcome to the Online Community, a Community that no one ever really plans to see themselves joining, and so sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.

A terminal cancer diagnosis in the family brings a lot of confusion, stress and many questions but talking with other people who are walking the same type of journey can help a lot.

You may find our Carers only, and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups a great benefit as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey.

Its always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support or just a listing ear.

The service is open every day 8am to 8pm and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here for more information and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.

Talking to people face to face can indeed help a lot but during these times it’s not that available but do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area and also the Maggie’s Centre at The Freeman in Newcastle as these folks are amazing and a lot of these services have moved onto online video support groups.

All the very best.