Hi all my lovely Mam was diagnosed with secondary liver cancer two weeks ago and was given 8 months or so. She went downhill last Thursday and we got her into the hospice on the Friday morning. By this time she was so exhausted she could really have a conversation with me and my brother .
Everything happened so quick and she died a few hours later. I feel so lost she was my go to person for advice, my shoulder to cry and and my best friend.
I feel so numb have barely cried, I’m so tired I just want to go to bed and stay there forever.
Is this normal
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, a Community that no one ever really plans to see themselves joining, and so sorry to hear about your mum, please accept my condolences and a virtual ((hug))
Although I have lost family I have not lost anyone to cancer but talking with other people who are on the same type of journey as yourself will help a lot.
The Community has various support groups and I see you have found and joined our very supportive Bereaved family and friends group. this is the place where you will connect with others walking this journey.
Follow the link I've created above then you can introduce yourself and post questions selecting '+New' or '+' (depending on your device) you can also join in with existing discussions by clicking on 'reply'.
It’s good to talk The Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information and support. The service is open every day 8am to 8pm and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here for more information.
You can also email them, use the online chat and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
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