My dad had to shield from March until August . But now he has deteriorated So quickly It’s so shocking to watch, from being able bodied at the beginning of the COVID outbreak to now a withered man (as a proud alpha male he himself is not happy). It’s horrible to see, but has anyone else seen their loved ones or themselves highly impacted by the shielding?
im now regretting being strict for him to stay in when lives alone and was living on short time anyway. But this has just reduced it and made it worse, and now there is no coming back as can’t hardly walk.....I’m so angry with it all.
Wishing you all well.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am always sorry to see folks finding us and so sorry to hear about the struggles surrounding your dad and the shielding effects.
15th March was the day I started shielding and little did I know that 6 months on, although not completely locked down I am still being very very careful.
We all had to do what our clinical teams advised and due to my type of blood cancer and treatments I was and still remain very vulnerable. I am coming through this ok but do have my wife with me.
Hindsight is an amazing thing but unfortunately not a constructive way to move forward and support your dad. You need to concentrate on loving you dad, making happy memories and don’t beat yourself up.
Talking with other people who are on the same type of journey helps a lot and the Community has various support groups so can I direct you to our Carers only, Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups a great benefit as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey
Follow the links I've created above then choose ‘click to join' when the page opens.
You can then introduce yourself and post questions selecting '+New' or '+' (depending on your device) you can also join in with existing discussions by clicking on 'reply'.
The Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information. The service is open every day 8am to 8pm and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here for more information.
You can also email them, use the online chat and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
All the very best and virtual ((hugs))
