Hello,
I’m new to this forum, hope everyone’s safe and okay.
My grandad was diagnosed with terminal bowel cancer a few weeks ago Aswell as skin cancer and tumours on his heart (this could be benign).
I’ve never had anyone in my close family have cancer before and I’m struggling on how to cope with the fact my grandad has this and it deteriorating so fast. We only lost my nan in 2017 but I was able to care for her daily and be with her when she passed but I can’t be there for my grandad in the way I want too because of Covid.
I just wondered if anyone has any advice on how to cope with this as I’m finding it really hard but I have to be the glue that’s holding everyone together. I’m positive around my grandad and everyone else as he needs us and I do not want grandad knowing how heartbroken I am because he needs positivity and laughter. I’m also finding it hard because grandad has lost the want to do the things he loved like his gardening and I don’t know how to help him.
Thanks in advance xx
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am always sorry to see folks finding us and so sorry to hear about your grandad’s diagnosis.
A terminal cancer diagnosis brings a lot of confusion, stress and many questions but you may find talking with other people who are on the same type of journey helps a lot.
The Community has various cancer specific support groups so can I direct you to our Carers only, Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups a great benefit as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey.
Follow the links I've created above then choose ‘click to join' when the page opens.
You can then introduce yourself and post questions selecting '+New' or '+' (depending on your device) you may want to copy and paste the text from this post, you can also join in with existing discussions by clicking on 'reply'.
The Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information. The service is open every day 8am to 8pm and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00. Clicking here for more information.
You can also email them, use the online chat and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
All the very best and a virtual ((hug))
