Dear all ,
I am maya ,trying to stay positive with my mother’s cancer journey. My mum had resection of bowel on 28th of July . The surgeon said there is a spot in her liver of 9 mm which have to monitor in ct scan she is currently being treated under guys cancer centre .My mother is 56 years old, she has high blood pressure and diabetes.
According to the histology result until 7th September , the oncologist said she is stage -ll , 12 lymph nodes removed but none of them was cancerous but they found only on the wall of vein so it is better to have 8 cycles of oral tablet capecitabine (xeloda ) I’m next two weeks but he said mum has to have blood test and ct scan of thorax, abdomen and pelvic . I did asked the oncologist about the DPD test to see if mum is dificient.
My mum had Ct scan done , blood test done and went for another consultant on 24 th of September last Thursday.
There was different oncologist , he shared us a shocking news that the ct scan showed the spot on the liver has increased from 9 mm to 11 mm and he said it seem like another tiny lesion. He said he 
nts mum to do another pat scan to find out if the cancer has spread another part of body . That scares me
That another shocking news thriller us thinking there is no cure , I couldn’t hold my tears .Now the oncologist said mum needs to start folfox chemotherapy which she needs to have infusion and pump will be fitted for next 24 to 48 hours and nurse will come to disconnect the cannula .
I was overwhelmed with so many things and the shock made me so shaky and I couldn’t concentrate well .
he said mum needs to have 6 cycles or 3 cycles I couldn’t remember but he said for 3 months have another Ct scan and if the lesion shrinks then if it is operable need to refer to liver surgeon .
and another chemo of 3 months after wards .
I would really appreciate your all help , any suggestion what should I ask the oncologist again , there is one appointment on 14 th of October , I am taking my mum to stay with me and my children so I can cook her healthy meals when she doesn’t feel well .
I really want her to live more years , I am scared if they say the chemo didn’t work or if they couldn’t operate the liver , what will be her treatment ??
please please help me to ease my mind and give us hope to stay strong , focus and positive . 
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am always sorry to see folks finding us and so sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis brings a lot of confusion, stress and many questions but talking with other people who are on the same type of journey helps a lot.
The Community has various cancer specific support groups and I see you have joined our Bowel (colon and rectum) cancer group, can I also highlight our Liver, secondary cancer group also. These are the places where you will connect with others walking the treatment journey both as patient or family.
Follow the links I've created above then choose ‘click to join' when the page opens if you have not joined the group.
You can then introduce yourself and post questions selecting '+New' or '+' (depending on your device), you could copy and paste your first post and you can also join in with existing discussions by clicking on 'reply'.
You may also find our Carers only and Family and friends groups a great benefit as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey.
The Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information. The service is open every day 8am to 8pm and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00. Clicking here for more information.
You can also email them, use the online chat and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
Our Online Information and Support Section is a good place to find information covering diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers.
All the very best.
Thank you so much
