Hi everyone. I’m probably posting in the wrong bit so sorry in advance! My husband has Stage 3 cancer of the vocal chord. He’s in week 5 of 6 chemo/radio. Understandably he falls asleep comfortably in the lounge on a regular basis. My question is do I wake him up at night to bring him to bed or leave him where he is comfy?
I feel guilty if I wake him up and guilty if I don’t.
Any advice would be appreciated thank you 
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am always sorry to see folks finding us and so sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis.
Fatigue can be a mystery and during my long treatment we came to the conclusion that when the body said sleep then let it sleep and yes this was often in a chair but my wife did her best to anticipate these time and try and get me in bed as much as possible. Some light activity when he is awake helps regulate the sleep patterns as well.
A cancer diagnosis brings a lot of confusion, stress and many questions but talking with other people who are on the same type of journey helps a lot.
The Community has various support groups so can I direct you to our Larynx cancer group as this is the place where you will connect with others walking the treatment journey both as patient or family.
Follow the link I've created above then choose ‘click to join' when the page opens.
You can then introduce yourself and post questions selecting '+New' or '+' (depending on your device) you can also join in with existing discussions by clicking on 'reply'.
You may find our Carers only and Family and friends groups a great benefit as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey.
It’s always good to talk - our Macmillan Support Services provides lots of ways to connect. The service is open every day 8am to 8pm and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00. Clicking here will give you more information.
You can also email them, use the online chat and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
Our Online Information and Support Section is a good place to find information covering diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers.
All the very best.
