My beautiful, amazing Mum is slowly passing away and I don’t know how I will cope without her been there. Just been able to text or call her. She was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer 2 years ago and we got the results last year that she’d won! She’d beaten Boob Baddy as my little girls called it (we called it much worse names!!) But our World fell apart again in January..it was back but she now has secondary cancer in her brain and in her lungs and that she was given an estimated time of 12 months left with us. She decided to fight it again but in July we found out the chemo and radiotherapy hadn’t worked. She didn’t want to feel poorly anymore..she didn’t want to be taking drugs and limiting what time she had been in bed exhausted, so my incredibly brave Mum decided to have no more treatment. Though we could instantly see a change in her, a happiness and a relief and for a short time we have our mum back I’m struggling to come to terms more than ever that she isn’t going to be with me forever. History is repeating itself in my family..my mum was my age when my Nana passed away, at the same age as my mum is now (61) and my 2 girls are almost the same age I was. They both got diagnosed with breast cancer.
This precious time should be spent making memories for us all but instead we have to stay away from each other and only see each other at a distance because of this damn virus. I want to run to her, hug her and cry in her arms but I can’t. We know if she caught anything we would have even less time with her.
This is the first time I’ve expressed my emotions as I am trying to stay strong for my mum, my dad who will be scared of what’s to come when his wife of nearly 40 years passes, my 7 month pregnant sister who won’t have her mum there to ask for advice on her first child and my own girls who have had so much loss in their short lives, who came into our lives as scared, little children who where wrapped up in love and care by their new amazing nana.
I don’t know if this is the right place to share these feelings so I apologise if it isn’t..I’m just a bit lost..
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am so sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis.
Your family have had a challenging journey so well done in reaching out and putting your thoughts down in your post - every little will help you navigate this time. I can understand that you are lost as a terminal cancer diagnosis to a loved one will indeed brings a lot of confusion, stress and many questions but I think talking with other people who are on the same type of journey helped a lot.
The Community is organised into various support groups so can I direct you to our Carers only, Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey.
Follow the links I've created above then choose ‘click to join' on the page that opens.
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It’s always good to talk, our Macmillan support line is open every day from 8am to 8pm and it's free to call. Clicking here will give you more information on what the Support Line offers. Alternatively, if it's easier for you then you can email them or use the online chat.
All the very best ((hugs))
Mike - Thehighlander
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