Mum's recent death

Hi  and welcome to the Online Community, although I am so sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about your mum.

The passing of a loved one brings a lot of confusion, stress and many questions but it may help you talking with other people who are on the same type of journey.

The Community is organised into various support groups so can I first direct you to our Bereaved family and friends group as this will connect you with people walking the treatment journey.

Follow the link I've created above then choose ‘click to join' on the page that opens.

You can then introduce yourself and post questions selecting '+New' or '+' (depending on the device you're using) and join in with existing discussions by clicking on 'reply'. 

It’s always good to talk, our Macmillan support line is open every day from 8am to 8pm and it's free to call. Clicking here will give you more information on what the Support Line offers. Alternatively, if it's easier for you then you can email them or use the online chat.

All the very best.

Mike - Thehighlander

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Hi Lizzi69, I  too lost my mum to cancer, unfortunately she died within 12hrs after surgery. It will  feel very strange, it doesn't feel real sometimes and you think you'll wake up and your mum will be there as normal.  One thing that helped me was when a friend stopped me to offer her condolences. She still had her mum and she said I would give everything to experience the love you and your  mum had for each other and to lose it, rather than never experiencing that love between mother and daughter.  This came to mind very often and was very helpful.  It is such early days.  I  think bereavement support is what you need right now. 

My heart goes out to you, good luck. 

Thanks for the message , it stopped me feeling so alone. The mind is a strange thing. I thought I could hear her breathing down stairs last night. It all feels very unreal. Yes mum and I were very close and in that way I was very very lucky.

You will experience many  strange happenings,  I used to think I had spotted my mum whilst in town, which gave me momentarily delight, followed by overwhelming grief.