Hi
So, back before lockdown in March, hubby was diagnosed with cholangiocarcinoma and had a lengthy operation (whipple) which , we were told, was successful. He initially recovered quickly but then hit many obstacles such as wound infections and recurring ascites. Long story short, after completing only half of his chemotherapy, we've just been told the cancer has spread to his lungs and his liver and is untreatable (he has been offered further chemo to stop the spread). To say we are devastated is an understatement. We're both 53 years old. We were at school together from the ages of 11 to 16 but only got together 9 years ago . Both of us feel so cheated as our previous relationships were equally unhappy and, having found each other again, we planned so many things for our future together. We haven't, as yet, tapped into any cancer support (denial) but now, faced with a financial and emotional crisis I think it's time we did . How do you find the strength to deal with this ? Covid-19 has made this journey so much more difficult it's been so isolating and damaging , not only to us but also my daughter who was due to sit her GCSEs. After 5 long months we're all quite drained and so it's hard to see how we can find the energy to be positive but be positive we now must be !! We now have to start living again and make new memories. I've got a wheelchair coming for my husband and , on good days, plan on trying to get out there again, visit old and new places and try to get some laughter back into our lives again.
Any practical advice would be much appreciated.
