My Father was diagnosed with stomach cancer in January, his prognosis was 4-6 months, any chemo would only be palliative. Long story to tell but we are nearing the end. He is in a nursing home, the last three weeks we’ve had two “come quick” calls and I live 2 hours drive away. My nerves are shot to peices, my emotional state is worse than fragile, I think I’m managing but really I’m not. We decamp for the weekend to a hotel to be close to Dad, every other day I drive two hours to spend up to an hour with Dad but most times it ends up being 30 minutes because that’s all he can manage and then I drive two hours home again. I have a 3 year old and a husband, I’m trying to be everything to everyone and failing miserably at all of them at the moment.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am so sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about your fathers diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this brings a lot of confusion, stress and many questions an all the family but talking with other people who are on the same type of journey helped a lot.
The Community is organised into various support groups so can I first direct you to our Carers only, Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups as you will connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey.
Follow the links I've created above then choose 'click to join' on the page that opens.
You can then introduce yourself and post questions using ’+New' and join in with existing discussions by clicking on 'reply'.
It’s always good to talk, so can I highlight the Macmillan Support Line on 0808 808 00 00 This service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00
All the very best.
Mike
