Hello all,
Currently going through a terrible time. My granda was diagnosed with prostate cancer about 2 years ago and is to be getting radiotherapy starting on October. A year ago my gran was also diagnosed with breast cancer. She was put on a tablet to try and help but it didn't work and she ended up having a mastectomy 8 weeks ago. She was then told she would need chemotherapy as some of the lynphnodes they removed had cancer also. She's been told this week after a couple of scans that the cancer has spread to her bones and also her liver and chemo is no longer an option anymore.
I am really struggling with the diagnosis this week and can not bare the thought of anything happening to her. The family feel completely let down but the hospital and people who have treated her so far. She was told at one appointment in November that they were too busy to scan her then her operation was put on hold due to corona. When we asked about a date we were told that anyone younger would take priority over her.
I'm just really looking for some advice as we are all really struggling with the news.
Thankyou x
Hi , I’m so sorry to hear about your Gran and Granda and the disappointment your family are feeling. I haven’t got any experience of feeling let down by my hospital, sometimes I’ve had to wait for treatment to start but have always felt they have been doing what they can under difficult circumstances. If I had ever wanted to raise a complaint each hospital has a patient liaison service that can be contacted to look into the circumstances of any complaint. Not all delays or non response to treatment are the hospitals fault though sometimes it’s just one (or more) unfortunate circumstances. It must be difficult feeling let down and trying to let go of that disappointment.
I was thinking what group to point you in the direction of, there is a friends and family group and also a group for supporting people with incurable cancer, I will put both links below for you to click on and have a look at, there may will be people who can identify with how you feel at the moment. It also helps to complete your profile if you can with a bit of info.The Macmillan support line on 0808 808 00 00 could also help with how you are feeling at the moment, they are open every day 8am to 8pm.
https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/being_a_relative_/discussions
I hope you find the links useful.
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