How to remain positive when your life is turned upside down

Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community

I'm really sorry to hear how much you've lost since you were diagnosed with cancer and can understand why you must be finding it hard to remain positive.

As the community is divided up into groups I had a little look at your profile to see what sort of cancer you were diagnosed with but you haven't completed it yet. If you feel able to tell me what cancer you're being treated for, I could give you a link to that cancer group where you can ask questions, share experiences and get support.

Alternatively you could have a look though this list of cancer specific groups and choose the right one for you.

I hope that once you connect with others who understand what you're facing you'll begin to feel more positive.

x

Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about you going through treatment......”how do you cope?” you just do from my 21 years experience.

Each type of cancer has a different type of journey so talking with other people who are on the same type of journey helped a lot.

The Community is organised into various support groups. so have a look at this list for our Cancer specific Groups.

Follow the link I've created above, look for the best group fir your type of cancer, join the group, then hit ‘start a discussion’ and you are ready to go.

You could then copy and paste the information from this first post into your new discussion or you can just join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.

It’s always good to talk, so can I highlight the Macmillan Support Line on 0808 808 00 00 This service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00

Our Online Information and Support Section  is a good place to find information covering cancer diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers.

All the very best.

Hello Mike

thank-you for your reply and your advice, I will certainly look into talking to someone 

I think cancer is cancer and everyone's diagnosis & experience is our shared fear, emotions and fight. Only the area may be different. Being alone with it is a totally different experience. Xxx

Dear ....

welcome,

Cancer has a horrid way of turning people’s lives upside down.I am really sorry to hear of all your losses.

Firstly,are you registered with a GP?They have information about groups which may be able to help you,practically,and emotionally.

Also,Citizens Advice Bureau.

I am so sorry you have lost your flat.Do you have somewhere to stay and be safe?

When I had cancer I lost my job,as I wasn’t well enough to return,even though they kept my job open for me.

It was a massive upside -down turn,and I didn’t then have a partner,,either .

My family helped as much as they could,,from a distance...and my GP and Macmillan have helped a lot.

I would advise you to ring up Macmillan.If you ask for “emotional support”,you will be put through to somebody who can listen and help you.They will also be able to advise and see what things you may need .There are lots of resources here.

Just take it one day at a time.

The emotional toll is a lot to deal with before you can think of anything else.That is where the Macmillan can help.

keep the number of your Breat Care Nurse which you got when you were first diagnosed.If you don’t have it,ring up and ask for one.They are well trained to answer any questions and don’t think any questions are “silly”to them.

Keep their number handy.

Try and keep up with any friends or family you may have.You may have to instigate this yourself,but it will pay dividends.

I hope this helps with a few pointers at this very sad time for you,

Love,Violetsniff xxx

Hello

thank you for your message. I will ring up for advice as it’s very hard to stay positive about anything. Everyone around me is just having good news after good news and here’s little old me with nothing and a bleak future

i will also speak with my GP as I am definitely depressed about the whole “cancer” thing.

thank you

jane 

Dear

please be assured it needen’t be a bleak future,Sweetie.

read some of the interesting and positive posts on Macmillan.

It just needs to be taken day by day.

try and find some of your old hobbies out which you used to love.

try treating yourself occasionally.

more than anything,try to make new friends xxxxx