Hello everyone
I have come onto here as this is a whole different experience for me and not sure what to do or what support I can give my partner
my mother in law has had spinal cancer for the last two years and we found out last week she has gone into a hospice and is now at end of life care stage as three different types of chemo where tried but sadly unsuccessful, she had hidden this from our family until this time how bad she actually was as she didn’t want to burden anyone
my partner is so close to her it’s unbearable for him knowing she hasn’t long left although we don’t know exactly as he didn’t want to know and neither does my mother in law, which is understandable.
i just don’t know how to handle this I need to stay strong for him and also our 9 year old daughter I have noticed his mental well-being has taken such a dive over the last week, I suffer depression and anxiety myself and notice the symptoms in him I’m worried for him
i know that this is a tough time and will continue to get tougher I want to be able to support him fully and just would like suggestions or advice anything is welcome as I feel quite useless at the moment and feel there is more I can do for him.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about the challenges you are all facing.
A cancer diagnosis in the family indeed brings a lot of confusion, stress and many questions but I found talking with other people who are on the same type of journey helped a lot.
The Community has many dedicated support groups so can I direct you to our supportive Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups as you will connect with others supporting family through the cancer journey.
Follow the links I've created above, join the groups, then hit ‘start a discussion’ and you are ready to go.
You could then copy and paste the information from this first post into your new discussion or you can just join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
It’s always good to talk, so can I highlight the Macmillan Support Line on 0808 808 00 00 This service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00
All the very best and a warm ((hug))
