Hi everyone. I’m new and this is my first post. I’m 36, diagnosed with breast cancer in March this year one week before lockdown hit. 2 weeks later I had a bilateral mastectomy, recovered from that and now I’m currently going through chemo, then I’ll have radiation. I was just wondering has anyone had delayed reconstruction and if so how was it and what was done. I’m considering having this done as due to covid I was unable to have it done at the time of my surgery. My mum went through breast cancer and a bilateral mastectomy last year and she’s happy to stay flat and I know lots of women are but I’m struggling to come to terms with my new body and think I might be happier having recon done. If anyone has advice I’d love to hear it.
thank you x
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Hi there
I had left mastectomy 6 weeks ago and I've requested a right mastectomy when normal surgical services resume. I'm 46 and I am happy to stay flat. There are so many prosthetic appliances nowadays that no one would ever know what's under your clothes. I get your age though, your young, not sure if your married etc. I'm single and yes I do think if I ever start a relationship then it's gonna be a difficult discussion. But for now I'm happy flat.
Best of luck xx
Hi, thank you for your reply. Yes I’m married with children. I haven’t let my husband see me since my surgery and I don’t think i will. I thought I was a strong confident woman but since this all hit it’s knocked everything out of me, but it’s the same for everyone going through it. I’ll maybe feel different in the coming months xx
Is it a self confidence issue that causes you to be private about it with your husband? It's a major body change for sure but I'm sure with or without boobs he loves you as a person in just the same way. Have you had any prosthetic fittings yet, I haven't but I'm on the list. I have a soft thingie that I was given post op, its like a boob shaped cushion, its great but tbh I usually just wear a vest top and sit my soft thingie inside my top. I dont wear a bra much at all anymore. How does your husband feel about it all? Xx
Sorry for delayed response. Yes partly confidence but more about how I look and feel. I hate what cancer has done to my body I feel mutilated. I had no choice and it all happened so fast. I’ve got softies to but I’ve only worn them twice Im not keen on them. I’ve still to be fitted for prosthesis. I’m just so unhappy with my body now. My husband says he doesn’t care how I look he loves me no matter what and that he’ll support me whatever I decide. Xx
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