Loss of my 33 yr old daughter

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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My daughter was diagnosed with Thymic Cancer in January. Very aggressive they tried chemotherapy and immunotherapy but it was too little too late she passed away on 17th May. Even though her funeral has taken place I still can’t process that my lovely girl has gone. I really don’t know how to deal with what I’m feeling, what am I supposed to do now, everyday without her is an effort, I feel guilty because I think it should have been me not her, it makes me so angry but I can’t deal with all the feelings I have, totally lost, numb, empty. I need help with this but don’t know what kind of help? Please is there anyone out there that can help me?

FormerMember over 5 years ago

Hello , I’m so sorry to hear of the passing of your daughter, I saw it was a month ago and was thinking that the date might have been especially praying on your mind. I have not been in the same situation as you it is my own cancer that has brought me to the site.

I wondered if you would like to have the support of others who have been or are going through a similar experience. Below I’ve put a link to the bereaved family and friends group where you could join and read through the discussions to see if they might help or join in or to start your discussion.

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/bereaved_friends/discussions

i have found great comfort in the information and support pages, sometimes to read that what I’m going through is normal, or to read through the tips on what coping suggestions they have, so I have looked up the following link that I hoped might help if you haven’t already come across it.

https://www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/supporting-someone/coping-with-bereavement/support-with-grief

My mother passed away 3 months before my own diagnosis, so having to concentrate on me was my abrupt end to my grieving process, not something I can recommend, but I did reach out to my GP to see what help might be available. I hope you find some relief reaching out here, sometimes just writing things down helps me.

take care